Can you fake it till you make it?

Today my post is a bit different than usual,Im not talking about products or make up looks I am talking about confidence and self esteem and can you fake it?

Now the reason this thought came about was because lately I have been feeling very low,I feel disgustingly fat,hideously ugly and just that I am not a nice person at all. When I feel low I usually have a cuddle with my daughters or I'll put on an outfit that I love,do my hair,play with my make up and 30 mins later(ok 2-3 hours!honesty here) I feel heaps better,but lately that hasn't been working for me.

Looking back over the years I went back to my school days and remembered myself at about the age10-12. I was horribly timid and shy. 

One nasty look or mean word,my bottom lip would quiver,eyes would well with tears and I would be destroyed. No exageration here, I was scared to look at people on the street. At school I was bullied often, and it was drummed into me to the point where I believed everything that these bullies said was true. To this day I still can't 100% forgive what was said as I still carry a little bit of hurt for the young girl that is still inside me but I can see now that what was said was nasty and kids being kids.

Anyway back to my point,because of the bullying I went to a high school that was in a different area away from the bullies and my peers,it gave me a chance for a fresh start. The only problem was, I knew NO ONE!

So,you have painfully shy me,new school,100's of people I dont know. My first day at high school was the start of a new me,I somehow got courage,put a smile on my face(maybe it was a grimace,I was so terrified) went up to a group of girls who obviously already new each other and introduced myself with as much confidence as I could muster. And from then on I adopted my mantra:Fake it till you make it.

Now my whole Fake it till you make it is focused on confidence and self esteem. When I feel low or shy I pretend that Im not. If I feel ugly or low, I do hair,makeup,outfit etc,put a smile on my face,hold my head high and pretend that everyone thinks Im gorgeous, now they very well probably dont but in doing so it builds my confidence.  I do this everyday till I am in a place where I do feel beautiful and the confidence is natural. Sure from time to time it is going to get knocked back but thats when I start faking it again and it never fails me.

I know Im not the prettiest,Im certainly not the thinnest(ok not thin at all!!)I dont have the clearest skin,I dont have the best hair but I can realise that beauty comes in different forms,shapes,colour and sizes

The thing is when you are confident,it shows and you become more attractive because confidence can make you seem happier and when it is true confidence it shows in your face

So if your feeling low,ugly,shy etc FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. Wake up in the mirror and think"I am a beautiful person,inside and out",repeat it everyday till you believe it!

And remember it doesnt matter if your fat,thin,tall,short,young or old,if you have a heart,are kind and stay true to yourself,your beautiful,no matter what anyone says. Dont let anyone bring you down !

I dont know if this helps anyone,or if its even read worthy and just my emotional babble,but here I am,laying it out in internet land for all to see.

Till next time stay Simply Stunningly Gorgeous xx

Gorgeous and stunning lashes

I was going to do a video for this BUT my camera broke yesterday(open bottle of coke,camera,handbag you can see where Im going with this!) so sadly I cant even do some pics to show before and afters of my own lashes but if I can get some good ones in natural daylight with my phone tomorrow I will flick them up

Now the following is what I do with my eyelashes to make the lashes really stand out,it may or may not work for you but hey try it,if you dont like it then dont do it again!I use this method as I am pretty hopeless when it comes to applying falsies(still trying but until then...)

Long,curly,luscious lashes(please note you do all the steps on one eye then do the other)

Step 1:Dust your eyelashes with a loose or transluscent powder

Step 2: Curl your lashes with an eyelash curler(you can warm them slightly using a hairdryer)

Step 3:Apply a coat of a curling mascara(I use Avon Supercurlacious) then apply a coat of volumising mascara(Now I use either Maybelline Unstoppable,Avon Spectralash or Nutrimetics Lash impact)

Step 4:Brush your eyelashes while still wet either with a lash brush or a clean mascara wand

Step 5: Start on the other eye

This looks great teamed with dramatic liquid eyeliner!!

If you do try this method please let me know what you think of it!!

Product Review

Elizabeth Arden Color Intrigue Gel eyeliner with Brush in Black 3.5g
 
I was so excited when I recieved this in the mail today and couldnt wait to try it out!Im usually a liquid liner and pencil kind of girl.
I purchased this off the auction site Trade Me(trademe.co.nz) and paid a tad more than I would usually consider for an eyeliner.I have wanted a gel eyeliner for so long and this is my first gel liner,so my excitement was to be expected

Sadly it was smaller than I expected(the size wasnt mentioned in the auction and silly me didnt think to ask!)

The blurb on the box says:




Smooth,long wearing color to line and define eyes,Eyeliner Brush included. Opthalmologist and clinically tested.

 Now I was impressed with how easily the product adhered to the brush and was pleasantly surprised at how easy it is to apply eyeliner with this brush.The consistency of this product is very balm-like which I suppose is what helps with its easy application. The product glided on smoothly but I needed a little bit more product than I thought to get the deep black I was after

The thing that makes this better than liquid liner is if you want a smudgy line its easily achievable without destroying your look and you can use it on your lower lash line(PLEASE NOTE:It is not suitable for the water line)
It is a great liner and pretty mess free and easy to apply,perfect if your new to wearing liner on your upper lash line and the brush makes application oh so easy. Definatley a worthwhile buy!

Photos follow!